What's Your Child's Emotional Intelligence Level?

Discover how well your child is developing emotional skills and identify exactly where to focus your parenting efforts. In just 4 quick questions, you'll get a clear picture of your child's emotional awareness, regulation abilities, and social skills—plus personalized guidance on the next steps to build genuine resilience that lasts a lifetime.

When your child experiences disappointment or frustration, how do they typically respond?

They have a big emotional reaction (crying, yelling, hitting) and struggle to calm down without my intervention They get upset but can calm down with reminders or distractions, though they rarely talk about what they're feeling They can usually name the emotion and calm down with a coping strategy like deep breathing, though consistency varies They recognize their emotions, use coping strategies independently, and can talk about what happened and why

How often do you actively name and discuss emotions with your child during everyday moments?

Rarely—emotions come up mainly during conflicts or big reactions Occasionally—I try to mention feelings sometimes, but it's not consistent Regularly—I label emotions several times a week during calm moments and conversations Daily—naming emotions is woven naturally into our conversations and routines

When your child has conflict with a friend or sibling, what do you typically do?

I step in and solve it for them or tell them what they did wrong I try to help them understand, but I often end up giving advice rather than letting them figure it out I ask curious questions to help them reflect, though sometimes I'm not sure if I'm doing it right I guide them through reflection with questions about what happened, how everyone felt, and what they could try next time

How do you model emotional regulation when you're frustrated or stressed?

I try to hide my emotions or react quickly without thinking—my child sees my stress but not solutions I occasionally mention I'm frustrated, but I don't usually explain how I'm managing it I sometimes narrate my coping process ('I'm going to take a break'), though not consistently I regularly narrate my emotional process: 'I'm feeling frustrated, so I'm taking three deep breaths to calm down'